Are you tired of the whole new year’s resolution thing? Did you give up on goal-setting altogether after it became too disheartening?
Change is hard.
Still, forward progress is a natural urge. We all want to be healthy and have fulfilling and purposeful lives. It’s not that we should give up on progress, but we need a more brain-friendly way to support changes beyond traditional resolutions and goal-setting.
Power of intention in the brain
Intentions guide our attention. If I intend to buy a Honda, suddenly I start noticing all of the Hondas on the road. If I intend to be more generous, I start noticing the ways in which I can give more.
Intention creates attention. And, as Dan Siegel says, “Where attention goes, neural firing flows and neural connections grow.”
Intentions also guide our action. When we create an intention to move, for instance, neural circuits for the movement become highly active prior to any movement. Our brains have what some researchers call an “intention network.”
Research also shows that intentions can have lasting effects in the brain. Sometimes, neural circuits related to an intention remain activate even after the intention is fulfilled, especially when there is a long delay between the intention and the action.
Keep it positive – “do” over “don’t”
When it comes to taking some kind of action, which change generally requires, the brain has two options: “go” or “no go.” The brain much prefers to “go” – that is, to move towards something it wants rather than away from something it does not.
Because the “go” response is linked to a part of the brain that anticipates reward, we’re more likely to take action towards something good than we are to act to avoid something bad.
So rather than wanting to stop arguing, I intend to listen more or to be compassionate.
Keep it simple and flexible
With any change or goal, especially when it’s longterm, the brain also wants some freedom and flexibility.
We don’t want to give up future choices. When we lose choice and freedom, we can feel too restricted or frustrated, and rebel. And our energy, which is needed for our willpower, can get depleted.
According to a study from Rutgers University, just being given an opportunity to make a choice activates a part of the brain’s reward system (the ventral striatum), and is like a reward in itself.
With a simple intention, we can move towards a goal, but we have freedom and flexibility to figure out how and when.
5 tips for a simple intention for change
(1) Thinking about the next year or your future in general, what do you want more of in your life? How do you want to be, or what do you want to create? Rather than being really specific, allow it to have a large and meaningful context in your life, something that could show up in a number of ways.
(2) Connect with the heart of why you want this. Why does it really matter? For instance, if you want more money, why? Because you want more freedom, because you want to be able to have more fun, be better provider, or because you want what you realize you deserve?
(3) When you get to the real value of it, what is the emotion or feeling behind that? In other words, if you had this, how would you feel? When you connect with the emotion, more neural pathways will activate in connection with the intention, which means it is more likely to stick. It also fuels the brain’s desire to get us closer to positive feelings.
(4) Find a word or phrase that captures the intention and its value and that resonate for you. Make sure the word or phrase is positive, and is about what you are moving towards. For instance, wanting more money could be an intention of “abundance.”
(5) Return to the intention, the value and the feeling of it again and again. Imagine it, again and again. Real or imagined, neurons that fire together, wire together. Write it, draw it, share it. With repetition, we deepen our attention and the neural pathways for it.
Keep in mind that, especially in the beginning, progress may not be externally measurable. But like a seed that’s been planted and is not visible at first, with care and attention, it will grow roots, become a seedling, and eventually a tree.
With time and care, your intention will create your attention, which will change your neural pathways and support your actions, your mental state and ultimately your future.
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